'Dude.. I think its high time you start thinking about your marriage... '
'Oh.. why so?? '
'C'mon Yaar!!! You bought a new flat and now a new car.. what else do you need to get married?'
'you mean to say these are the prerequisites to get married??'
'Of course.. These can be used to impress the girl's parents..'
'Hmmm.. Is that enough?'
'Yeah. If the parents like you, its all set.. what else do you need man??'
'I always thought being liked by the girl I am to marry was primary!!'
'Not necessarily.. You trap the parents, the girl will fall in place..!!'
'Thats very insightful'
'By the way. what marriage are you planning to do? Arranged marriage or love marriage??'
'I never really have thought about that'
'Let me tell you this.. Arranged marriages have 90% success rate and love marriages only 10%'
'Really.. why so??'
'Arranged marriages start as a compromise. For all the ups and downs in such an arrangement there's always room for compromise. But Love marriages start more on a winning note than sheer love and any tussle in such a lovely life would only get worsened between the egoistic souls and ultimately all that love shatters and breaks up. Arranged marriages have more adjustment than love. The only striking similarity between arranged and love marriages is the dearth of love...'
'Wow.. I dont know if its you or the drink you are having but it certainly was an amusing allegory!! How do you know all this??'
'Experience dude.. Its just plain experience!!'
'Experience?? How can you gather so much experience considering your age!! How many times did you get married??'
'Huh.!! Just like you dont need to get into the ocean to know the profundity of its depth, you dont need to get married for that matter to know what marriage really means..'
'Then what is the source of your so called experience'
'I have a girlfriend.. No.. I had a girlfriend!!'
'Had!! What happened this time?'
'Nothing... Im seriously thinking of breaking up!!'
'Hmmmm. If I remember correctly you seem to have mentioned the same thing last time...'
'No.. This time its seriously serious!!'
'And what is so seriously serious this time??'
'She doesnt love me. she only pretends to do so. She is using me.. The day she is done with me, she will ditch me and go with somebody else.'
'what makes you think so??'
'She has so many friends and most of them are guys.. She keeps going out with them often. she doesnt have time for me!! I know all woman are like that...'
'I dont think you can generalize on that aspect. But you should be aware that she has her own life, her circle of friends, ambitions and everything. You just happen to a part of her life, a very special part it must be.. but you are not the only part of her life... Such sathi savithri things only happen in movies and to be precise only the old movies. Now they have stopped happening in movies also.. This is life dude..'
'Ya.. Thats fine but why only guys???'
'Haha.. You are insecure and that makes you possessive about her. You are afraid that you might lose her to some other guy'
'I am not possessive.. May be i am a little... But I love her and I dont want to lose her!!'
'Dont worry.. Its only natural to be possessive about someone you love!!'
'But why doesnt she understand me?? Why do we have to quarrel all the time? Why is it so difficult to understand woman??'
'Quarreling and then pacifying, hurting and then loving these are all the defining blocks of a relationship. They bring love in you, fill you with hatred, enrage you, make you cry, make you laugh.. They can arouse every possible emotion in you and you do the same with them. You dont understand them and they dont understand you and sometimes there's none better to understand each other. You cant live with them, you cant live without them. Thats how it is..'
'Ya.. May be you are right.. I think I will talk to her!!'
'I know you would do that anyway!!'
'Oh yeah.. Thanks dude..!!'
'Anytime..!! Finish your drink...'
'ok.. Merry XMAS and a happy and a prosperous new year!! I hope you will find your quarreling partner soon!!'
'Hopefully. Thank you.. wish you the same!!'
'Oh.. why so?? '
'C'mon Yaar!!! You bought a new flat and now a new car.. what else do you need to get married?'
'you mean to say these are the prerequisites to get married??'
'Of course.. These can be used to impress the girl's parents..'
'Hmmm.. Is that enough?'
'Yeah. If the parents like you, its all set.. what else do you need man??'
'I always thought being liked by the girl I am to marry was primary!!'
'Not necessarily.. You trap the parents, the girl will fall in place..!!'
'Thats very insightful'
'By the way. what marriage are you planning to do? Arranged marriage or love marriage??'
'I never really have thought about that'
'Let me tell you this.. Arranged marriages have 90% success rate and love marriages only 10%'
'Really.. why so??'
'Arranged marriages start as a compromise. For all the ups and downs in such an arrangement there's always room for compromise. But Love marriages start more on a winning note than sheer love and any tussle in such a lovely life would only get worsened between the egoistic souls and ultimately all that love shatters and breaks up. Arranged marriages have more adjustment than love. The only striking similarity between arranged and love marriages is the dearth of love...'
'Wow.. I dont know if its you or the drink you are having but it certainly was an amusing allegory!! How do you know all this??'
'Experience dude.. Its just plain experience!!'
'Experience?? How can you gather so much experience considering your age!! How many times did you get married??'
'Huh.!! Just like you dont need to get into the ocean to know the profundity of its depth, you dont need to get married for that matter to know what marriage really means..'
'Then what is the source of your so called experience'
'I have a girlfriend.. No.. I had a girlfriend!!'
'Had!! What happened this time?'
'Nothing... Im seriously thinking of breaking up!!'
'Hmmmm. If I remember correctly you seem to have mentioned the same thing last time...'
'No.. This time its seriously serious!!'
'And what is so seriously serious this time??'
'She doesnt love me. she only pretends to do so. She is using me.. The day she is done with me, she will ditch me and go with somebody else.'
'what makes you think so??'
'She has so many friends and most of them are guys.. She keeps going out with them often. she doesnt have time for me!! I know all woman are like that...'
'I dont think you can generalize on that aspect. But you should be aware that she has her own life, her circle of friends, ambitions and everything. You just happen to a part of her life, a very special part it must be.. but you are not the only part of her life... Such sathi savithri things only happen in movies and to be precise only the old movies. Now they have stopped happening in movies also.. This is life dude..'
'Ya.. Thats fine but why only guys???'
'Haha.. You are insecure and that makes you possessive about her. You are afraid that you might lose her to some other guy'
'I am not possessive.. May be i am a little... But I love her and I dont want to lose her!!'
'Dont worry.. Its only natural to be possessive about someone you love!!'
'But why doesnt she understand me?? Why do we have to quarrel all the time? Why is it so difficult to understand woman??'
'Quarreling and then pacifying, hurting and then loving these are all the defining blocks of a relationship. They bring love in you, fill you with hatred, enrage you, make you cry, make you laugh.. They can arouse every possible emotion in you and you do the same with them. You dont understand them and they dont understand you and sometimes there's none better to understand each other. You cant live with them, you cant live without them. Thats how it is..'
'Ya.. May be you are right.. I think I will talk to her!!'
'I know you would do that anyway!!'
'Oh yeah.. Thanks dude..!!'
'Anytime..!! Finish your drink...'
'ok.. Merry XMAS and a happy and a prosperous new year!! I hope you will find your quarreling partner soon!!'
'Hopefully. Thank you.. wish you the same!!'
