sometimes as life trails on not knowing where you are heading, why you are living there would be instances when one sparingly bright moment you stumble upon something you never thought of or never realised and then... the bell rings.. just like you always knew this was it.. always..
I started wondering how this word would relate to me.
Have i been living with it? Did i not realize it ?
It means this.
The Fear of staying single. Whats so fearful about it. You get used to it. Not by choice, but by..... I dont know by what. You just get used to it because there is no other way to it .
I have seen people who have made use of this opportunity of being single to their best use.Bravo!
I have seen people who have made good use of their 'free time' [Thats what one gets for being single] , but at some point utter those words : It would have been better had he/she been around. And then there are those who end up just wasting time writing about some words. Just because they are single and have no hope of changing their status. :-)
And further i found , it means this also.
This word also means the fear of marrying the wrong person. Hmmm that sounds interesting. And at same time, it has me thinking. Ohhhh i think i already have this phobia. I wonder what will happen if two people having this phobia get married.
As of now, i am happy. Amen.
today i had one such bright moment when i happened to read my friend's blog..
this is what i found...
Anuptaphobia
I came across a new word today. And it seemed so meaningful . I really liked the word. Just like that! Without any reason....
I started wondering how this word would relate to me.
Have i been living with it? Did i not realize it ?
It means this.
The Fear of staying single. Whats so fearful about it. You get used to it. Not by choice, but by..... I dont know by what. You just get used to it because there is no other way to it .
I have seen people who have made use of this opportunity of being single to their best use.Bravo!
I have seen people who have made good use of their 'free time' [Thats what one gets for being single] , but at some point utter those words : It would have been better had he/she been around. And then there are those who end up just wasting time writing about some words. Just because they are single and have no hope of changing their status. :-)
And further i found , it means this also.
This word also means the fear of marrying the wrong person. Hmmm that sounds interesting. And at same time, it has me thinking. Ohhhh i think i already have this phobia. I wonder what will happen if two people having this phobia get married.
As of now, i am happy. Amen.
This was the word I was looking for, not even knowing what I was looking for.. when I saw it, I knew it...
The first meaning really doesnt suit me, for I always had the pleasure and company of good circle of friends.. Being alone never really happened to me...
The second one strikes the chord.. The word really doesnt sound scary or phobic.. Its just a wary feeling of marrying the wrong person or perhaps to not marry the right person...
Just like these brief enlightening moments, seldom you come across instances in life when you knew the right thing.. you knew it for sure.. this has to be it.. the right decision, the bloody right choice.. the right way to life...
And it cant get more disgraceful (for the lack of better word.. i need more enlightment!!) when you dont find the guts to pursue it...
We say life is unfair.. but we design it.. we mould it the way we want it to.. we make it fair, unfair..
too much of optimism sometimes is like a disease... fighting an already lost battle.. losing hope like losing your limbs, blood, inch by inch.. swimming in the middle of an ocean with the flimsy hope of surviving...
well my life!! I am living every moment.. enlightened.. Im having a ball...
Great dude. Life is all about finding and living such moments!!
I think if you does't want to single and feeling such kind of fear of single than you must do one thing go and have a talk with her...and propose her for marriage...if she said "YES" marry her and live a good life and if anw is "NO" go with your love and share your precious love with someone else...its so simple....and i think you boys have no dare to do so...sorry if i am wrong..
stranger..
@ animesh
why you treat life in this way?
stranger..
hey the enlightened one ..!! gud luck :D
@ animesh
lets get together to celebrate such moments..!!
@ stranger
well.. the transition from sharing your love with a different person isnt that simple as you propose..
but life moves on and such things eventually happen..
im only savouring the moments.. the precious moments of life..!!
Hey thank me for that word and
not Animesh.
Guess that word's making everyone blog :)
Ha, I love myself!
A nice post though.
And the template is mesmeric.
@mrunmayee
thanks for the word..
u r right.. this word is going places..
"The transition from sharing your love with a different person isn’t that simple as you propose"
@ Stranger
I agree with Dee. Sometimes, other way is also true. Proposing isn’t that much easy like... proposing some one whom you already know (a friend), proposing after a big fight, proposing after a heart break!!!
Living life with a different person after a heart break, there is no much loss in that...
But if you lose a heart after proposing, it may turn out to be a life disaster...Proposing is not just a question of dare!
Rejecting a person should not be in such a way that you should break someone’s heart!
@anon and @deewanna
sorry!
my intention is not that to hurt you guys well you both misunderstood me..
well.. with lots of best wishes
stranger.
@ Stranger
Talk about girls!!!
For freaking and f-in she needs one
For Love another
For Marriage one more
After divorce …
End Of the Day (when time approaches for marriage or breakup), acts safe. "Hey brother! What’s up?....... Oh! That was really funny!!"
Though not all girls are so…
@ Dee Wana
Losing a battle is not similar to - losing a life, losing a love, losing precious young age, losing scintillating and burning feelings of love. You may win thousand battles in future. But love is only once and so are feelings of love and young age. But if they are destroyed saying you are not worth, its not less than a hell everyday, every night, when you suddenly wake up losing the deep slumber, and your heart beat is at its peak like a racing horse with a fear of lack of hope, lack of interest in living, with a feeling of failure (something that you can never win your life), when all the success and wins that you had in the past seem worthless, and so is with the future endeavors and you feel why am I still living on this earth, and on the other side your young age getting vanished, but your feelings of love and sex are bound with only one person whom you love...
People in this world are much worried about win and success and covering their sins under the carpet. The true win is in making others win, whom you loved. I was so poor not to realize that she was so selfish just to accept her win and not to satisfy me even with simple things I wished for…
A loss of battle is is just a loss of win which can be regained anytime, there is no question of age invloved in that.
@ anonymous who has come up with such a preposterous theory on women..
i totally disagree with u.. these feelings and whatever u have mentioned r completely unbiased.. they dont have anything to do with gender..
@ anonymous speaking about battle.. hope my friend is a renewable source of energy like the sun.. we r never bereft of it..
you seem to sluggishly treat the symptoms (insomnia, depression) rather than the disease..
failure is permanent only when you accept it..until then its just another step forward...
A step forward is as long as you have time to achieve...and when you dont lose the interest in feelings...
@ anonymous speaking about battle
@anonymous
when u lose your interest in feelings.. u simply dump them and move on..
and time is like investment.. it depends on how wisely u invest or how carelessly u spend it..
Sorry!! These are my own feelings...And you never come to know until you experience…So don’t worry... I wish you never come across such things...
But, even sun has the time to lose its brightness after some million years. Imagine if it stops the rays from tomorrow, and your hope dies...Every day sun rises, but the way people see the sun varies... I wish you people never see such things and the sun always shower the hope and happiness in you...
Even i was happy, up to such an extent that, i used to shower happiness to everyone around me, until some one introduced pain into me!!!
Moving on is not a big question in life. Life moves on with/without something...
I lost interest to live on this earth! Do you want me to leave it??? Many a times I thought to get rid of this life…
I lost interest in feelings of love, which are bound with only person… I have been trying to leave those feelings and forget her from long back…But I am not able to escape them as everywhere I see only love…
@ deewana
What do you mean by "they dont have anything to do with gender..
"? U got me wrong!
I only meant they are not sincere but still they act sincere!
I hate this acting be it be anyone a guy or lady!!!
Anon***mous
@ deewana
I was talking about lack of dare to accept the truth.
And more precisely, ruining the life of loved ones, by acting pure, mounting hopes and finally ruthlessly breaking hearts! Despite the fact that she had been happy with some one, why had she ruined other’s life!!! Why only one was not enough? Why can’t be they sincere with only one at a time??? Why did she introduce feeling of sex??? Why was she acting like she was in love with only me???
You might have your own view of “not a single girl concept!” for any thing.
But not all are like you!
Anon***mous
@ Dee
Time: I meant about some thing that i lost already... you are talking about future...
Anyone can achieve the best in something, not even necessary to invest time wisely, if you have dedication that’s enough...In fact there are thousand ways to achieve something. But if somebody whom you love so much proves that you are waste even though you achieved so many things, then what is the need of achieving. When i am no more eligible for some happiness i wanted, and i can’t escape from those feelings, what is the great use of investing time?
Anything you achieve will have a purpose, but when the very purpose is lost....
As a matter of fact, achieving will never be so difficult, when i want...But there are things which you can never achieve and never get back and you missed those precious moments of life, for which are you no more eligible...Few opportunities come only once...Not all are achievable with time...You will come to know when you miss those...
There are people who live life as "live with what you get in life"... I am not that way...There is no difference to a person dead person and such a one...
"Swimming in the middle of river with flimsy hope" ... Do you want him to dump his life and wait for another??? Not just life, many things in life are only once, so was with my precious feelings of love and... Everything doesn’t hold good everywhere…So is your time concept…
@ Dee wana
I never talked abt my future time.And i know how to manage my time... Even i can say "People who cant go to GYM regulary also keep talking about time management"
Well!! You can never know what is love and pain until you know what has happened to me exactly.
If i have to live on this earth, i am defnietly going to kill two people on this earth. Because they commited the sins and they proved me to be guilty...And i lost lot of things because of them...The only hurdle that is coming up is i loved her... Otherwise i would have killed her by now for playing with my life...
Sorry byeeeeeeeeeee....
Dude... tell me why people are so insincere in this world ?? But still hails to be good ??
@deewana
I know you are trying to protect ur intimate frnd with very less info you knew. It was a lost battle long time, but she is the one who re-started it and introduced pain in me! Check the blog!
@Stranger
Why have you been more worried about me and have been trying to play with me????
Please come out and tell me the truth...
Y are you hiding and making me more worse in others view !!! Tell me!!!!
@ Dee wana
Sorry, for the last few comments !!! I am not the way you are thinking. I have grown up with my own views. I knew that you knew that info long back. I saw it in orkut, more prcisely around Aug 19. That is what i was talking as very less info...
@Stranger
hey i know you are the one who acted as missanonymous,stranger and good stranger, and if you are not coming out, i will come out with your stuff and let all others know!!! Anyways you have already acted bad!!
nice to see your post ra on life and phobias..like to read more of that sort from you